There's not a lot of distinction in the way people date [or] in the attitude toward dating and marriage," Anderson told CP.While "sex may be the determining factor" for some Christians "we're even seeing that line blurred," said Anderson."And in every other respect, we're generally seeing the same kind of attitudes and practices," said Anderson, listing "dating ad nauseum, dating indefinitely, dating someone without any specific game plan, and dating recreationally without a view toward marriage," as examples of ways that the Church has adopted the patterns of the larger secular culture."For the Christian culture it's extremely frustrating, because they are trying to go after something lasting, but they're using the same formula to get something that's just not going to get them there," said Anderson.Maynard said that as her and her peers grew up, many of them became "jaded" with their childhood values and consequently chose to make decisions contrary to those espoused by the purity culture."We were raised with the idea that says, 'Wait for God to bring you the one.' And 'Don't wait around, don't sleep around, and you'll kind-of get this reward,'" said Maynard."I think a lot of people who are dating in the Christian world, say late 20s, early 30s, they did 'the right thing.' They followed the system.
As an adolescent, her mother's only sex-ed advice was to use birth control when she became sexually active.
"After all, when the Scriptures were written, the people during that time got married when they were teens; so they didn't have to struggle with sexual temptation like we do now." In response to Rob's argument, Cindy found Scriptures about sexual purity and showed them to him. After all, we can just pick and choose the parts of Scripture that we want to believe on sexual purity, right? For example, if sex before marriage is okay because people supposedly can't control themselves, then it must be okay to engage in pornography, too, right?
When Cindy read 1 Corinthians 6:9, 2 Corinthians , Galatians , Hebrews 13:4 and Deuteronomy -28, all which condemn sex before marriage, she asked Rob, "Are these Scriptures relevant to today? After all, the temptation to watch and participate in porn abounds like it didn't in Bible times.
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When Heather Lindsey moved to New York City in 2004 at the age of 22, the Michigan native both attended church regularly and considered herself a Christian.