She admits to occasional insecurity, especially when it comes to dating; she worries she might not be as attractive as those who live independently.
"It's kind of a weird thing to navigate living with a parent.
But all in all, she found the whole situation almost impossibly awkward. Living at home definitely kept me from feeling comfortable meeting new people, and one time I flat-out lied about where I lived."That impulse is understandable, according to Sherry Amatenstein, LCSW, a New York-based couples' therapist.
Millennials are “in a stage of life when they’re trying to figure out who they are,” she explains, which can make moving home a difficult adjustment, both professionally and personally." She says it’s important for women living with their parents to be open about their current housing arrangement with new friends and dating prospects, but not to make a massive deal out of it.
I don't see myself living with my mom forever, but for right now, I’m really happy here,” she acknowledges.
Still, Sandy is working through some “personal uneasiness” about what living at home says about her.
“Once, I was out at a bar with friends, and a guy I [had a crush on] met up with us,” she remembers.
“We ended up going back to his place, and the whole time I was thinking, I have to be back home before my parents notice I stayed out all night. This level of control frustrated Carla, making her feel like she’d regressed. “I told her that I knew she was worried about me, but I was an adult who had already lived on her own, and I needed to be treated as such,” Carla explains.
If so, your partner might have been a narcissist or a person with narcissistic tendencies.
Here’s what they struggled with — and learned — during the experience.“Meghan,” 26Two years ago, Meghan moved back in with her parents in New Jersey in a post-breakup state of shock, not just about being newly single, but also about her post-grad-school job prospects — or lack thereof.
“I applied to about 60 jobs during graduate school,” she recalls.
And, returning to the familial nest wasn’t doing any favors for Megan’s own love life. “To be honest, it was a celibate six months.” Though she did a lot of Tinder dating, most of Meghan’s matches lived far from Jersey, so she wouldn’t end up seeing the guys she went out with more than once or twice.
“Friends in the city graciously offered couches and floors, so I was able to crash with them,” she explains.