In Sapadin's study, men rated cross-sex friendships as being much higher in overall quality, enjoyment and nurturance than their same-sex friendships.What they reported liking most was talking and relating to women—something they can't do with their buddies."Even the most secure people in a strong marriage probably don't want a spouse to be establishing a new friendship, especially with someone who's very attractive," said Monsour.
Women spend the majority of their time together discussing their thoughts and feelings, while men tend to be far more group-oriented.
Males gather to play sports or travel or talk stock quotes; rarely do they share feelings or personal reflections.
This may explain why they seem to get far more out of cross-sex friendship than their female counterparts.
"You know you love someone and enjoy them as a person, but not enough to date or marry them. " The reality that sexual attraction could suddenly enter the equation of a cross-sex friendship uninvited is always lurking in the background.
A simple, platonic hug could instantaneously take on a more amorous meaning.