"I think it is the Internet culture."With that in mind, it's important to also remember that everyone has his flaws and issues.
A key to successful dating is for each man to identify which flaws are acceptable.
The other type identifies a dater who's seeking all of the same pleasurable experiences, and likely includes ever-changing partners.
The difference is that the latter type believes that dating can lead to finding someone with whom he connects on multiple levels.
Finding that right simpatico person is really huge."At first glance, it may seem obvious that gay men would date someone they desire to spend a lot of time with — deceptively so.
Many impediments can prevent making such a connection, particularly the list of attributes and qualifications some guys require for dating prospects.
"In just talking about their partner, they had an almost unlimited appetite for each other's company," he says.Many men are already coupled when they move to the desert.Sexologist and marriage/family therapist Winston Wilde also sees this reflected in his practice, the Desert Center for Sexuality Awareness in Rancho Mirage.I hear this in nonsexual interactions, even in business.People just don't respond, and there's all this craziness that comes from that."It seems to be going more and more toward being disrespectful," he adds.The bigger question overall for these men may be finding someone with whom they can connect in a mutually satisfying way. They have a sense of adventure."Many gay men understandably face a hurdle to being curious, stemming from homophobia and their closeted early life."It comes from being wounded as children, from having to hide," Wilde explains. Our churches, schools, families [may be] against us. A lot of gay people are trying to show, to prove how great they are."While that may account for a lack of curiosity about the date sitting on the other side of the restaurant table, Wilde also sees growing disrespect in online interactions that impede dating.